by Rhys Jones
Dealing with anger is never easy, since people always have to face problems and reasons for conflict but our anger management technique is crucial. We have to deal with price increases, arguments, war, violence, crime, everyday common stupidity and continuous interruptions. There is not one person in this sometimes difficult world that has not gotten mad at some point.
Anger is a feeling that we all have to cope with. But anger comes in many forms: the root of anger is hatred, anxiety or frustration as a result of previous deception or disappointment. It is a result of anger management technique. This is true. However, true or not, even in the Bible it says that when Adam and Eve were created on Earth, the first incident was when Satan, in the form of a serpent, lied, deceiving Eve. Once that lie became apparent, the world started experiencing many more problems, including violence, murder, war, shortages, disease, weather disasters and et cetera.
Since that first lie, the world has become more chaotic and continues to worsen as the years roll by. We can examine how a lie can instigate anger by looking at one individual scenario. That person engaged in criminal activities, like stealing, writing bad checks, and selling prescription medications. Now that person had to embroider lying into the picture, since she felt that her behaviour and actions were only a means of survival.
So, she started lying to cover up her crimes. As the years went by, that person became angry and could not cope, solely as a result of the way she was behaving, her way of thinking, her poor anger management technique, the way she was living her life. That person began acting as anyone suffering from uncontrolled anger would act.
This included, putting others down, insulting others, verbally and physically assaulting, threatening, belittling and mocking others. The woman was diagnosed with a mental disorder, Post traumatic Stress Disorder and Bipolar. She also had health issues, including diabetes. Now if we look at all the aspects of that person’s anger and her anger management technique, we can see, if we search deep enough, that her lying, which caused paranoia, was the root cause of her behavioral problems.
These days, so many people have a problem with their anger management technique. Many of the people with post-traumatic stress disorder behave in an angry way because they are reacting to a flashback in memory. Yes! People with post traumatic stress disorder often suppress their negative emotions and when they get in a violent situation or are angered, it is often the result of fighting the sources that caused their trauma in the first place and not the person in their presence.
But, we do not see this as the cause for the woman’s fury, since she did not make the problem public knowledge. Therefore, people would exclude post traumatic stress disorder as the cause, or at least reduce the possibility of it. So, now let’s take a look at diabetes, since this illness affects the nerves. The shortage of insulin creates other problems too, but many people with diabetes will become upset for practically no reason at all.
However, most people do not act angrily, assault, insult or attack others . If we look at the reason crimes are committed, we see that very often, serious behavioural problems come from lying. Therefore, when we look at this woman’s case again, we can see that we have to deal with the underlying problems ie to stop her from lying and get her to move forward, avoiding bouts of frustration, anxiety and anger by employing an anger management technique.
However, this person is in denial, which means that until the legal system forces her to study anger management technique, she probably will not get help herself. Furthermore, even if the criminal justice system does insist she gets help, it probably won’t work, because her denial has existed for probably many years. So, now we are dealing with a real problem in anger management technique , since her behaviour is life long, which means extensive therapy isneeded.
Anger is a normal emotion, but when it interferes with someone else’s life, it becomes a serious problem. This person is not hurting only one person, she is hurting society as a whole, since when she steals or writes bad cheques, society pays through higher taxes, as well as other levies. One of the worst problems that I have noticed with this type of person, is that the system and society allows it to continue; only addressing it when the person is in custody. Once the person is released, then it continues again. This is a sequence of events involving lack of control due to anger mis-management and bad anger management technique.